….You have a rather fearless attitude now, and this works. There can be breakthrough thinking about practical matters, career, or long-term goals.”
Goals don’t work for me. I’m sure it does wonders for some people, but I find goals confining. I become inflexible, stressed out, and unmotivated. I don’t think goals are for people who are self-motivated.
That doesn’t mean I wander through the world aimlessly. In fact, it’s the opposite. If my life were to be summed up in a book, my trajectory would be clear to any reader. When I have freedom to do what I want, I am motivated and am able to accomplish things that I have never dreamed of.
I have never had a 5 year plan and don’t want to make any now. I don’t have a vision for my future self that that’s perfectly fine. The more I try to think about planning for the future, the less value I find in investing in long-term goals.
Things rarely work out the way I see them. The more expectation I set up for myself, the more disappointed I get. Accomplishing a goal is rarely as satisfying or significant as I had believed it would be. A lot can change in the course of a day and what’s important today may not be important 5 years from now.
For now, I’m doing what I do best. I am doing what I want and making no excuses.
Hmm…this one is tricky. There are a lot of people that I think can help me with my goals, but not very many who have the time.
Getting the right help is super important. It can be dangerous to get advice from random sources. People seem to have opinions about everything, even things they don’t know anything about! People might have good intentions, but if they’re not an expert in what you need help in or don’t know you well, there can be terrible consequences.
I am working on expanding my network and possibly finding a new mentor. In the meantime, I do have a handful of people whom I trust.
I decided to contact one of my retired friends today. I’ve been communicating with him on and off now for a few months and he’s been sending me his poetry. It’s been a real pleasure to read his poetry, especially because they were written in verse (an extra cool factor to me!). I haven’t been sending him much of my fiction writing because they are in bits and pieces right now.
It’s amazing how easy it is to lose touch when all it takes is a simple “hello.” Since you’ve sent me so many poems, here’s a haiku for you, River:
Hello to River
Your poems are so fun to read
Look forward to more
Oh, how does my horoscope know when I’ve been lazy and gluttonous?!
I exercise regularly, but haven’t been doing as much as I could given the number of hours I lay on the couch, work on the computer, and read in bed. Today, I decided to jog a little further and extend my run past an hour. I only went 65 minutes, but that was still better my usual 45 minutes.
The latest study I heard is that it’s better to work out for 75 minutes straight 2 times a week rather than do multiple shorter work outs. I’m not sure if this applies to cardio, weights, or both. I don’t follow trends and scientific experiments like these because they often claim that their latest study has discovered the magic formula to a healthy body. The assumption behind many of these cases is that there is ONE method of exercising that fits everyone. That’s just nonsense! Each person has different genetic makeups and lifestyles. What works for one person may not for another.
While I do not take these studies blindly as truth, I do think there is an added benefit to working out past one hour. According to some other study that I have no citation of, that’s when your body starts burning fat. I don’t know if that’s true. What I do know from experience is that my body feels different if I engage it longer than an hour. I’m still going to do my short workouts, but I will extend a couple of them to get the added benefit of feeling more energized.
Now that I have specific writing projects to work on, it’s even more important that I pay attention to my health. I have realized that what makes goals (of any kind) difficult is that it’s often not just about completing tasks or steps to achieve a specific goal. It requires a lifestyle change. I don’t see writing as a “goal” but rather a new element that I want to bring into my life. For me, that doesn’t only mean reading and writing more, but also taking better care of myself so that I can accommodate those changes. When I’m at my physical best, my mind works wonders!
It’s easy to give up on goals. There’s a million excuses one can make, but sometimes certain goals are not worth having.
To be honest, I don’t really care about (career) goals at the moment. As a former over achiever, I’m happy to do less and accomplish less. There’s nothing wrong with slowing down and smelling the flowers for a change.
I was ready to let go of today’s goal of submitting a job application that I felt lukewarm about. However, my horoscope advised me not to and I already ignored my fitness scope for the day. I didn’t think it would be wise to snub ALL my predictions for the day. I’ve already learned the hard way!
With that out of the way, I worked on my second predication of the day.
“Power comes from being open to new ideas. When confronted, don’t resist. Consider.”
It was too late to go out in the world today, so I started on Sleight of Hand by Peter S. Beagle. It’s a collection of short stories and it didn’t disappoint.
In “The Rock In the Park,” two kids help a family of centaurs (NOT pictured above!) who are lost in modern day Bronx. Using a magical brush created from hairs from the centaurs’ tails, a boy draws a map which will lead the centaurs to Mexico where their fellow centaurs have already migrated to for the winter.
The story made me wonder about all the things that I miss when I’m “too busy” and not paying attention. For all I know, there could be centaurs, unicorns, and other magical creatures hanging around my jogging trail at night. I’m not outside often enough to know what really goes on out there. Heck, they might be there right now, and maybe I just can’t see any of them!
Today I wrote my introduction to this blog. I’ve been putting it off for a few days because I wasn’t sure what direction I wanted to go, but I made a decision. Writing was daunting at first, but got easier once I started.
The latter part of today’s horoscope is worth highlighting. It gives good advice that is echoed in many life coaching theories: start small. I’ve understood this for a long time, but it’s been hard to put into practice. What helped me today was the reminder that, “sometimes reaching smaller goals is much more valuable than reaching the big ones.”