Attachments are hard. As much as I have been able to let go of material things, I find that attachment to ideas are much harder!
I’ve been attached to the idea that I could write XX amount of pages per day for my novel, but that has not come to fruition. It’s easy to feel disappointed and stressed out, but MUCH easier to be happy with the pages that I do have. After all, I worked very hard on those 16 pages and they deserve my love!
I often hear people talk about attachments in reference to Buddhism, so I thought I should see what that’s all about. Apparently, there is a lot of misconception about attachments because it gets conflated with separation. Based on my quick non-scholarly research, I found this explanation helpful:
[N]onattachment is exactly the opposite of separation. You need two things in order to have attachment: the thing you’re attaching to, and the person who’s attaching.
In nonattachment, on the other hand, there’s unity. There’s unity because there’s nothing to attach to. If you have unified with the whole universe, there’s nothing outside of you, so the notion of attachment becomes absurd. Who will attach to what?
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It’s funny to think that I don’t even own my own thoughts. I guess it’s true because my thoughts and feelings change all the time and have been shaped by my environment and experiences. One minute an idea is there, and another minute it’s not. It’s just part of who I am. I am mortal after all, and nothing about me is permanent.
This morning, I attached myself to the idea that there would be no more food porn on my blog for the rest of the week. When I got to work, an email informed me that there would be cake this afternoon, so I let go of that attachment right away.