December 2nd – “There’s something going on behind the scenes — a very big something — and you’ve been privy to it for some time. You don’t have permission to let anyone know about it.”

Secrets are meant to be kept, not told.

Yesterday’s horoscope also gave me the same advice:

Ready to help a friend reveal a surprise? Bet you are. You’ve known this was coming for ages, and even though no one else has officially been told just yet, you know they’re guessing, and you’re feeling more than just a tad smug and happy about it all, too. Just be sure to let the actual source of the message deliver the happy news — it’s only fair. You can still have your share of congratulatory hugs.

Here are my strategies for keeping a secret:

  1. Don’t tell anyone
  2. Don’t tell anyone
  3. Don’t tell anyone
  4. And last, but not least, don’t tell anyone!

If someone’s found out you’ve revealed his/her secret, you will likely:

  1. Not be privy to future secrets
  2. Lose his/her trust
  3. Lose a friend
  4. Feel guilty about it!

So what constitutes as a secret nowadays? Must one explicitly say, “This is a secret” for it to count? I’m not so sure about that. The lines can be blurry, so this is what I strive for:

  1. Treat all conversations as confidential. You never know what someone is comfortable telling you, but not to someone else.
  2. Do not engage in gossip. This one is super hard because sometimes I just need to vent! A wise woman named Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Do I want to be small minded? I don’t think so!

I’m trying to do less of this, but I do share information with my significant other. He doesn’t hang out with anyone I know, so it’s easy to unload on him. Because of his lack of interest in hearing about people I interact with on a daily basis, I naturally limit my gossiping to a minimum. It also makes me highly aware of what I’m doing and focus on my own interests in situations.

The other party I share information with are people who I think will never meet.  This can be tricky because I have to be 100% sure that they won’t meet! It can get super awkward!

If I had to rate myself on a scale of 1 to 10 on how well I keep secrets, I would say that I’m about an 8 right now. I used to be a 5 or 6, but have learned from other people’s bad behavior. I wish I could say that I was enlightened by being self-aware, but I’m not that conscious!

This is all a long winded way of telling you that I have been told a secret and I’m not going to share it. Sorry!

For those of you who can keep secrets, here is a virtual high five! You’re awesome!

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