Rewards are something that I’m not used to doing for myself.
I grew up in a household where there was only punishment. As a kid, I recognized that my parent’s form of upbringing was psychotic and not achievable (how does one follow rules when the rules constantly change?) because I had other people to compare them to. I still think that they are crazy, but I haven’t been able to kick all the bad habits that they instilled in me. Hey, how hard can it be to unlearn 17 years crazy, right?
To this day, when I do reward myself, it’s often in the form of non-material things. I reward myself by doing things that I have to do anyway like chores. Other times, it can come in the form of denying something I need like exercise. I call it the punishment reward system.
This morning, I “rewarded” my past week of staying up late working by cleaning my bathtub. Yes, CLEANING MY BATHTUB. Boy, my parents were very effective.
It’s a good thing that I scheduled a late morning dim sum outing with some friends.
If you haven’t been to dim sum before, it’s like Cantonese brunch. There are a lot of small plates (many of which are steamed) to consume while drinking tea (with no sugar or milk). Most of the dishes include meat and some may be fatty, but if you drink a lot of hot tea, you can eat for hours!
It’s best to go to dim sum with a lot of people so you can try more dishes. I don’t ever go to dim sum by myself. I’m lucky to have friends to go to dim sum with because it trains me to reward myself in the conventional way, and not by my demented punishment reward system.
Thank you to all my friends who have ever gone to dim sum with me! We all know that we don’t need dim sum, but hey, it’s delicious and sometimes it’s nice to have a gluttonous meal! THANK YOU!